Our life observations 34

Our life observations

Simple man life observations

Welcome to our page 34, ‘Our life observations’.

These are my life memories and observations

My life story and my life observations are like my own shadow, they follow me everywhere I go and I use them to live the rest of my life the best way I can. 
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Victor Hugo, is one of our great minds, he was also a great observer, so there is a lesson to be learned. So, I have learned during my life that if we observe things, we will be able to learn something from those observations






Simple man life observations

Dear readers, we have already written several articles about my life story, so, here I would like to point out that these articles that I have written are my life memories and observations, which bring me to another observation. You see, we have to learn from our own life and our observation of life, before we can say these things; for instance, let us just observe what I am doing just now: Well I am writing my own life observations in this article, we will call this first part of my article, simple man life observations; and then, we will break my writings in several sub titles, like the following, observe and learn from life, let me talk about my childhood and my childhood pains; one can still learn from the hurting part of life. Here I have to make to following observation, which is that this hub or article could have been the beginning of my life story; instead I have moved it towards the end of the first part of my life story, which is the story of my life before I migrated to Australia.

Anyhow, as I have said we have to observe and learn, and then when we can, we could try to use our observations to guide us during the rest of our life; our observations of life if we remember them well, they would be like our own shadow that follows us everywhere we go and it never fails, so let us all learn from life by observing whatever happens around us. I know that sometimes we might want to forget what has happened to us, because it is painful to recall, but even those painful memories are worth remembering, because they might teach us to avoid them next time. Now let us look at my own life story and observation and perhaps compare them with today’s way of living.

Looking at the ways that we are living today, one could certainly say that it is better than it used to be in different ways, but at the same time, living today is not as simple and easy as it used to be; because of the changing ways of living that progress has brought with it, therefore, living one’s own life today is a very complex event that needs to be looked at closely, even if it is just a normal simple life of a simple man like me.

You see, in the old times it was easier, because life usually would follow the same pattern as the generation before, so, is was good enough for everybody to copy the previous generation. But today is different, because things have changed and continue to change quickly, so, we have to change also if we want to succeed in life.

Today ways of life are not as steady as they used to be, so, when we start thinking about the beginning of our own life no one could ever tell and no one could ever even guess what life would or could be bringing to any of us. Having said that one should observe what could be done about it; of course the best way for any of us is to plan ahead how we would like to live our own life; and here I mean that we should really make up our own mind about what we want to do with our own life, and then try hard to keep to the chosen plan if we can.

But even if one plans well ahead, there are times during our life when one has got to do whatever is most appropriate at that particular time in order to survive and thrive, and be able to earn our own living. Therefore, even if we have made up our own mind, and perhaps we have decided that we want to study, or we want to learn a trade, or do something special during our own life, it may not happen just the way we have planned it, because some life events may override those decisions, so we may end up doing a different job, or being something else other than what we had planned to do in the beginning. But then because these things happen we learn from life what we need to do and we do them since that is the best way to solve the problem. You see, we need to observe and lean, it is necessary to do that even if it is done just to survive those times that we happen to live in.

Observe and learn from life

We should observe life events and learn from them

We have to learn to accept life just the way it comes, because sometimes this is the only thing that we would be able to do; we have to try to do it without upsetting ourselves too much; I am saying this because, during my life I have had a few of those life experiences that are not the best; but I could do nothing about it to change the outcome, so I had to accept them and continue to live the best way I could.

Today, I am looking back at my life that I have already lived, and I am thinking that I have already lived the most important part of my life. You see, I happen to be in my sixties while I am writing this page here for the first time; so, I can look back at my life and wonder at the great changes of lifestyles that we have been living in this new present era including my own life. While I am looking at these changes I also wonder at the events that have changed our lifestyle, and also of how it all has been happening and still keeps happening and changing even now while I am writing here this article. You see, life is never still, only dead things keep still and don’t move.

Therefore, right at this very moment I am wondering why I am writing this at all, because writing articles is new to me and so it is still another one of my lifestyle changes, which has been brought about from those changing life events, you see when I was young I could never have guessed that one day I could be writing something and be able to publish it in something called the Internet, and I would be writing in a language that was and is not my native tongue.

All this has happened to me, because there have been lots of changes since I was born, there were life events that have changed my lifestyle during my life, and so they have forced me to change and to adjust with them as required; and it was one of these changes during one stage of my life, when I felt the need to start writing, so that I could fulfil one of my emotional personal needs. And in doing so I have written a few things, which I would very much like to preserve at least for the time being, although sometimes I wonder whether my personal written articles are really worth to be saved.

But here I am talking about my own personal writings, and even if they are worth nothing to the rest of the world, they are my personal writings and my experience of life, and therefore I would like to keep them forever while I am still alive, and perhaps even after I am dead, if they could make sense to anybody, so that, if one day somebody happens to read my personal writings they will be able to understand them. So, now I will try to write them down in a way that people will understand them. So here are my life events and changes, according to the observations of my own life, as it evolved starting from when I was a child, so let me talk about my childhood now and the problems that I went through when I was very young.

Talking about my childhood

Dear readers, as we have said before this article could have been the beginning of my life story, but now it is in the middle of my written articles, just because I have not been able to say all this before; therefore, now let me go back in time and talk about my early childhood, so that I would be able to write a record of my life; I was born near the end of the year 1938, and that is before the Second World War started. I was the second child in my family, my brother is only fourteen months older than myself, and for my parents my birth was too soon after their first born. They wanted more children of course, but they wanted them to be born a little more far apart; so I was welcome and unwelcome at once, at least this is the way that I have understood it.
I was born a good healthy boy, but in those days medicine was not as advanced as nowadays, so they didn’t immunise children as much as they do today, because of this lack of knowledge I did not receive Whooping Cough immunisation and as a child I caught the Whooping Cough, and although I was lucky and survived it, since then I have kept coughing on and off for the rest of my life, and therefore I have never been able to completely get rid of my coughing problem, because the Whooping Cough most of the time leaves this condition to whoever caches it for the rest of their lives. At least this is how my own mother has explained my coughing condition to me.
Another health scare and a scar happened when I was three or four years old: I was playing with my brother who was older than me by one year plus, and while we were playing I don’t know why he hit me with a heavy boot in my face; so that, my nose started bleeding, and it bled for a very long time, that even my parents became very worried, they tried everything they knew and somehow they helped me stop the bleeding, but since then my nose has been bleeding very easily. My nose bleeding has been a real problem with me when I was a kid, and even when I was an adult it kept bleeding very easily. But when I was a teenager has been the worst, and my nose used to bleed day after day up to three times a day. Part of my nose bleeding problem could also be attributed to the way of life that I was living in the farm, as in summer times I had to be in the hot sun a lot of times, and the heat expansion would make my nose bleed, and in winter times because I would catch cold in the cold weather my nose would be bleeding also; but part of this nose bleeding could be attributed to the boot in the face that I received from my older brother, as I believe that it weakened my blood vessels in my nose, at least this is what I have been thinking all my life.
However the blood loss and a poor diet in the farm made me grow very skinny, so skinny that one could say that I had all the signs of malnutrition, I was so skinny that one could count my bony ribs, and I was also so light that other boys would sometimes make fun of me, when we were playing and they used to lift me up.
I need to say also, that all these hardships and poor health that I have suffered when I was young; they are also due to the greatest drawback of my life, which happened when I was about five years old. Because then Fate struck a heavy blow to my own parents, as my father and three work horses perished from a lightning strike, while they were carrying on a cart one of the last loads of wheat of the season from a faraway field, I remember my mother crying several times about my father dead.

Death in the family and the greatest drawback of my life

When this great misfortune happened, we were left with no father and with great financial loss. With the death of my father from this most dreadful misfortune everything changed for the worst for us children, therefore, all the good chances that we could have had in our younger life were taken away, and all the dreams that our parents had for us children came to an abrupt end.

So after our father misfortune, our family that consisted then, of my mother and two boys and a girl that is including myself, we were left in a very poor position to prepare for a decent future life.
My mother had to rely on her two younger brothers, who were only still teenagers at that time, and they had to help her to run our small family farm, so that we could earn a living, as in those days there was no help from the government whatsoever, we were on our own, those were hard times for sure, I can tell you.
So when I was about ten years old, because my family could not afford any longer to hire a youth to help in the farm, I was chosen to help in the farm, instead of my brother who was one year older than me, and by right he should have been chosen to help in the farm.
So, I instead of continuing to go to school and get a better education, I had to go to help in our family farm, and this became later on the greatest drawback of my life.

The way of life in the farm was very boring when I was a child, as it had been for centuries before my time. But before my time people didn’t know how to live a better life, so it didn’t matter that much to them at that time, since most of the male farmers then lived in their farms all their lives, and everybody around them would be at the same level of awareness, so, nobody would ever think that life was boring in the farm, as they would happily accept life as it was then, and they didn’t worry if the lot of them were dull people compared to the towns’ people; as it was only because they were less educated and lived a lonely and boring life, but they were happy just the same and some of us would thing that we were better off than the town people, because there was always something to eat in the farm, compared to the towns’ people who sometimes went hungry, when they had no money. Anyhow, the way of life that I was living in the farm, which had been all right for my forbears up to the time when I was young, was becoming old fashioned during my youth, and therefore it was not right any more to live in such a way, because of the human progress everything was changing quickly.
So, I have been very unfortunate as a young man, because everything that had been unchanged for centuries started to change, and most of the people that were living in the towns who before depended from the farming sector to earn a living slowly became better off than us in the farms, but before my time these people usually depended from the farmers for a living, and now everything seemed to swing the opposite way in their favour.
Because of the changing way of living and farming, it became very hard for us to live in the farm and earn a living, so in the end I had to leave our small family farm, in order to earn a better living somewhere else. And it was then, that I realised that all the work that I had done in the farm and all what I had learned in the farm as a youth was a waste of time, because the time that I had spent in the farm had been a complete waste of time. Because I had to start all over again somewhere else, and I would be doing something else completely different in order to earn a better living; but these things happen in life and we have to accept them, as there is no other way out. The only thing we can do is observe and learn from life.
Therefore because of the changes of life style, which brought about more hardship than usual to the small farm owners, I was forced to leave my small family farm and the town where I was born, in order to find a better living standard away from home.
So, I migrated to Australia. In Australia I changed job and worked in the building industry, which was a lot better than farming, about this building industry I will be writing a few articles later on.

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Life means whatever you want it to mean, even when it hurts

Now, let us look at my life like a philosopher would look at it, let us learn whatever we can learn from our own life, and therefore, since we are talking about my younger life, let us talk about the hurting part of life in the farms and the personal consequences that it brought to us young farmers, who unfortunately ended up working in the farms when we were young.

For this reason, that I am trying to explain above, while I am editing this hub I have realized that I want to add the following article in this hub, it seems to me that it is the most appropriate place to write this; here I am talking about the hurting part of live that we had to go through in our young life, because it left us in a disadvantaged position, and how all this has affected my entire life.

But first of all let me explain also that life means whatever we want it to mean, even when it hurts us, as we always learn something from it, so even if I am going to lament my bad luck here-under, we all should take it as a lesson from life. Here let us be a bit of a philosopher and let us study the fundamental problems of life from our own life.

I need to say that, when one goes through all these hard life experiences in the farm, one knows that it is really a hard life farming, but we the younger would be farmers of those times kept working in our farms to feed the rest of the community anyhow, and even if we were working our guts out, and while we were doing that we were becoming dull, but we did our part to support the rest of the community anyhow.

Now you mark my words, because what I am writing about here is something old, but for me it is as if it only happened yesterday, so let me say this like in the present tense; at the time when this was happening the rest of the town’s community doesn’t see it that way, and they think that we are stupid people that just work our guts out, because we are dull and don’t know better.

So this attitude of the community hurts every farming hand very much, and most of all the young farm hands and those who would become young farmers later on also, since this are the harsh thanks that we receive from the town’s community for doing what we had to do.

But what’s hurting us the young farmers most of all, it is when the towns people seem to laugh at us because we have become dull compared to themselves; this is the way that we are being treated from the rest of the town’s community and it hurts too much: So we the hurt ones, we feel that we want to shout into their faces that they should be ashamed of themselves because; They have first sacrificed us, as they have put us in a position where we could not improve ourselves, instead of treating us in the same way as they did for themselves, and then they laugh at us because we have become dull. What a shame! Genzano town’s folks, (including also all other towns around) you should be ashamed of yourselves! Because you first sacrifice your own children by sending them to work at a very early age, and then you laugh at their sacrifice, only because through their sacrifice they have become dull. Shame on you Genzano’s folks!

Anyhow, whatever has been, it has been and we can only learn something from it, if we have observed what has happened and learned from it.

What I have written above has been my life and the way that I have lived it up when I was young, and now allow me to say that I have been unlucky to have lived such a hard life when I was young, but at the same time I feel that it is all over and I am lucky now. I have to think that way, because that is the only way to find peace within oneself.

I suppose that what I have been saying above seems already out of time, as if it is hundreds of years old, but it is not, because it all happened during my life, so how are today people going to compare my life story to today’s living is hard to tell, but it would be helpful if they could compare it somehow

But now let me finish this article by saying that somehow, I have written already the story of my life when I was young, but there are a couple more articles that I need to write before I start the second part of my life story after I migrated to Australia. This two article one is about the poor outcome of my psychological love life, due to the facts that I was poorly prepared, and therefore I will lament that, because that has affected me all my life; the second one is about to compare the way of farming and how better off we are today. Then I will have to start my second part of my life story, beginning from when I migrated to Australia and what I did in Australia.

In this second part, I will be speaking from Australia, and therefore I will be telling you to start with about the town that I came from, which I believe that might very well be interesting to know, so that you my readers may understand better what was going on during my entire life. So, after I have written my next two articles, I will start telling you about the town that I come from, Genzano di Lucania, this town is called with this longer name, because there is another Genzano town in Italy and that one is Genzano di Roma. Anyhow let me close this article by saying that next hub will be my psychological hub called, midway love story, which is a story of unwanted love, that has upset me psychologically a lot personally. See you soon.

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